Making Custody Arrangements Work at a Special Time of Year

Christmas tree

Note: Dear Reader, your author has been in a nearly 2 week long family law trial that has taken a great deal of time prepping for.  I thought I posted this prior to Christmas, but it turns out I did not.  So, instead of being a month late, I like to think I am 11 months early! Home for the Holidays Many divorced parents can attest to the headache and hassle that can accompany a visitation schedule involving frequent shuttling of the kids  back and forth between the parents’ homes.  In the holiday season, these difficulties can be amplified by a hectic flurry of …

Mediation & Divorce

In Minnesota the rules for family law require you to at least contemplate mediation prior to filing motions and going to court. The new rules now (Rule 303) requires that you certify your efforts to the court, that your lawyer and your spouses lawyer have conferred (either in person or by the phone) to talk about mediation efforts. This blog post is going to discuss the benefits and costs associated with mediation and other ADR requirements. BENEFITS costs of divorce We often say that when parties go to trial there are only two winners, the two lawyers involved. And this …

Minnesota Divorce, Alternative-Style!

What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think of the word “divorce”? For many people, it’s a lawyer. And for good reason–in most circumstances, it’s in your best interest to have a  lawyer represent you during your divorce. But in some cases, the best method of getting a divorce might not be the traditional lawyers-and-courtroom method. Minnesota offers several types of alternative dispute resolution (ADR) available to divorcing couples. Here are some of the pros and cons of each. Divorce Arbitration: Arbitration is, on its face, very similar to a court proceeding. You and your ex can each …

How To Succeed At Divorce Mediation!

Many folks think that all divorces must end in a trial, ala Kramer vs. Kramer.  They don’t.  The reality is that well over 99% of cases end without any trial, it ends in settlement.  Typically settlements are either 1) done by just the lawyers and clients or 2) at mediation. To succeed at  a Divorce mediation you first you need to understand what mediation is.  Mediation, in the divorce sense,  is when the clients and the lawyers (usually, but not always) go and try and work out a deal.  It’s not  binding and if mediation doesn’t work it usually means …

Congratulations You’re Finally Divorced! Now Get Ready For Another 10 Years of Fighting!

Is Your Divorce Really Over? Wait a minute, you’re thinking “but the case is over, we went to court and the Judge ruled! What are you talking about!?” Well the problem is that just because you are divorced you still have kids to raise together! This is one key concept I see parents forgetting all the time. Remember that just because you are no longer married to your ex, if you have kids, you still have years and years of dealing with him or her on an almost daily basis. You have football games, dances, confirmation, graduations, weddings, grandchildren, baptisms…and …