Why You NEED A Divorce Lawyer in Minnesota

Here he goes again…

I have dealt with this topic before and said that unless you are in a very unique situation you need a divorce lawyer.  Yes, yes, I know I am a divorce lawyer, so you may think this is a self-serving statement, but in order to explain why a good divorce lawyer is absolutely essential I want to share a story that occurred recently.

Divorce Story Time

Recently, a man came to my office and retained me to “fix” some problems that had occurred over the past few

divorce mistakes people make

Res Ipsa Loquitor

years since he was divorced.  Now, he was divorced several years ago and had several children and attempted to negotiate custody and parenting time, but he didn’t have a divorce lawyer at the time.  As you can imagine he entered into a settlement that was very unfair, specifically concerning custody and parenting time.  For example, there was no provision regarding transporting the children (he agreed to do all the driving). If he had an attorney his lawyer would have spotted this issue and more than likely not have permitted the man to agree to this issue.  This is just one of the issues that we tried to fix.

Do It Once, Do It Right

Well, as you’ve heard from your grandparents, it’s always easier to do it right the first time and it’s no different in MN divorce court.  We filed a motion, with affidavits and after some very intense arguments, the Judge issued his ruling: “You made your bed, now lie in it.”  ok, ok, the Judge didn’t actually say that, but what the Judge did do was indicate that all of these issues, while perhaps not the best deal, were agreed to by the man and the Judge was not going to change the agreement absent extraordinary circumstances.

After spending several thousand dollars and months of nasty litigation the man gets…nothing.  He was pretty upset, he blamed the system, the Judge, heck even me.  But the cold hard reality is that this could have been avoided, nearly every issue he had, if only he had hired a divorce lawyer BEFORE signing the Marital Termination Agreement.

What can you, the Dear Reader, take from this? Well here are the takeaways from this lesson:

  • Think long and hard about what you want from the divorce.
  • Interview several different Divorce Lawyers to find one that fits.
  • Before signing any documents, have your lawyer review them.

There you go, I’ve said it before and I’m saying it again, please before you sign any documents, retain a divorce lawyer.  The costs may not be as much as you think and just hiring a divorce lawyer does not mean you must engage in World War III with your spouse.

Jason Kohlmeyer
Rosengren Kohlmeyer
Law Office, Chtd.
Mankato, Minnesota

Jason Kohlmeyer is a divorce lawyer in Mankato, Minnesota who has seen far too many people NOT hire a divorce lawyer because they believe they can fill the forms out as well as any darn lawyer can!

Jason Kohlmeyer

With over 15 years experience in high conflict family law cases, having received numerous awards, and a frequent lecturer through both Minnesota and the United States on family law issues, Jason has decided to help people through a blog, answering some of the most common questions that people have during divorce and family law. cases. http://rokolaw.com/southern-minnesota-lawyers/jason-kohlmeyer/ Remember this isn't legal advice. Just blog and attempts to answer general questions, for legal advice you need to hire a lawyer. If you're in Minnesota our firm would be happy to see if we can help you.


  1. The story about the man who had difficulty negotiating child custody and parenting time is a great example why hiring a lawyer can help with divorce cases. I have a few friends who could have used a lawyer in their divorces. It’s like you’ve said, having a good lawyer and knowing what you want out of a divorce can help negotiating the details to work out well in your favor.

  2. Good topic. Mostly people get confused while selecting a lawyer for their divorce case. But after reading this blog they will get some good information.

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